So far, the two major qualities of the erotic lover have been perception and giving.
Loving and giving are inextricably bound up. The great medieval philosopher Maimonides teaches that to love God is to know the divine in both world and self.
It is through the consistent commitment to the growth of the other expressed through regular and spontaneous acts of giving that you become a lover.
As we have said, the model for being an erotic lover – in all facets of our existence – is the sexual.
The perception of falling in love is but one expression, however of a broader kind, of perception.
Love is almost always proceeded by an act of will. We do not fall in love unless we decide to fall in love.
Now let me share with you something truly beautiful. It is a sort of Hebrew mystic expansion of Traherne’s moment of rapture. It is one of my favorite stories.