Eventually we fall out of love and realize that we were totally blind – how could we not have seen this or that!? What hoodwinked fools we were!
It is for this reason that most books on the subject actually suggest that falling in love has nothing to do with love. Indeed many wise teachers suggest that real love doesn’t begin until the day we fall out of love; when we finally wake from the starry-eyed illusion of love which so captivated us and begin to see clearly. While there is some truth and even wisdom in this teaching the Hebrew mystics paint a very different picture of falling in love.
You see, if falling in love was only a great cosmic act of deception, then it would be a certain sign that we live in a cruel universe that delights in blinding people, shooting them with arrows à la cupid and then watching the whole tragicomic scenario unfold.
The Kabbalists experience a universe where love is the inner energy vivifying reality. In such a reality then the experience of “falling in love” cannot be false.
In fact for the Hebrew mystic falling in love is actually not blindness. Not only is love not blind –but infatuation and falling in love are not blind either.
In fact, falling in love is one of life’s crowning experiences of truth. Not only is it true, but all of its perceptions are true. This positive affirmation of falling in love is a core axiom of Hebrew mysticism! It is the path of ecstatic perception.
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These last two day teachings really clarify and illuminate the “falling in love, love is blind” myths that we live with in modern day teachings. How many books and songs are written about the magical, mystical act of falling love, finding the right partner, etc……then how many are out there about not being blind, opening your eyes, etc. How beautiful that falling in love is the core axiom of Hebrew mysticism, affirming all aspects of the “act” as part of the divine process. In other words, even when we get it wrong, we get it right, or to not be so dualistic, even when we are blind, we are just being opened to new levels of seeing. Some are more painful than others, some bring consequences, but I hear you as saying all acts of falling in love are necessary to begin to learn to see with God’s eyes. The day I can’t see the love in all things is the day I choose to not see with God’s eyes. Even in the pain of Eros, we are being awakened to the path of ecstatic perception. WOW!