A story about love. About having eyes to see. A story I’ve told for many years. It’s about Jack, a very busy businessman from Chicago. Jack’s friends were constantly saying to him, “Jack, there’s more to life than doing deals and chasing wo ...
Archive for December, 2008
A Lover has Eyes to See: Marc Gafni
The Secret is in the Eyes No two faces, say the masters, are ever the same. Every person is a radically and utterly unique subject of exquisite first-class art. It is all about having the eyes to see. Perception is not a neutral camera that objective ...
To be a Lover: Marc Gafni
Everyone, if we would just stop to notice, is beautiful. To perceive that beauty and bask in the pleasure it evokes: that is the beginning of what it means to be a lover. Remember the wonderful sixties folk song by Melanie. Beautiful people We share ...
Love Is a Verb: Marc Gafni
Love is a Verb Once we understand that love is not a noun but a verb it all becomes clear. Love is a perception of infinitely unique soul print of every every breath-taking, creature we meet in the world. An emotion cannot be commanded; perception ca ...
Our list of lovers is way too short: Marc Gafni
Thou Art Commanded Thinking that being a lover is necessarily sexual is to exile the erotic – in the sense we have been using it- eros = holiness= enlightenment = aliveness = shekinah… it so exile the erotic into the sexual. The sexual ho ...
Yes We Can! by Marc Gafni
One of the great literary masterpieces of the twentieth century is James Joyce’s “Ulysses”. Joyce spends reams of pages portraying the main character, Leopold Bloom’s ‘No’ reality in the streets of Dublin. Joyce maps masterfully the life ...
Yes We Can! by Marc Gafni
We were not born this way. Remember, we come into this world trailing clouds of glory with a core knowledge of our omnipotence, beauty, infinite power and infinite potential. And then we hear a chorus of voices for the first ten years of our lives ...
Yes We Can! by Marc Gafni
In an interview, John Lennon dotingly tells about the first time he met his wife Yoko Ono. He had heard that Yoko was having an art show in London. It was to be quite a happening. He recalls admiringly the moment that got him hooked: So I went and ...
Yes We Can! by Marc Gafni
Love is the universe shouting out a joyful yes when our names our called. Yes. In Hebrew the word yes — Kein — means integrity. Yes is the ultimate affirmation of our integrity. The question of your existence is whether you can say yes to th ...
YES we can! Marc Gafni
YES! I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes”! — Oriah Mountain Dreamer It was to this that Emerson referred when he said, “Love ...
Who Are You Anyway? Marc Gafni
The unfolding of the spirit, as are all great truths, is em-bodied in the human form. All you need do is look at the revolutions of change you undergo physically in a lifetime. The fetus with its tail becomes the scrawny screaming infant becomes the ...
A Failure in Love is a Failure in Imagination: Marc Gafni
Writing a book is painful. Words, said Timothy Leary, are a freezing of reality. Before I put the chapter down on paper it is infinite, liquid-like and emerging. The second I pick one of the infinite possible turns of phrase — it becomes frozen. Fo ...
I Love Him For the Man He Almost Is: Marc Gafni
To love a person is both to perceive and identify a person — not only with the best of who they are, but the best of who they could become. We are not human beings; we are human becomings. In fact, the original Hebrew the words “I am” do not ex ...
In the Presence of Your Friend- You Already Are: Marc Gafni
The Seer of Lublin, 19th century biblical mystic, said it like this: “There are three kinds of friends in the world. An ordinary friend who sees you as you appear to be. An extra-ordinary friend sees you for what you can be. But in the presence of ...
Love is to see the Future in the Now: Marc Gafni
Candace is about to marry Tom. Our vision is limited. We only see the “regular” Tom. The regular is unchanging and commonplace. The divine is always growing and unique. Part of perception identification requires the lover to be a visionary. To to ...