Falling in Love: Part Eight: Marc Gafni

Okay – now we will unpack together the stages of falling in love…

The Fall

“Each Note”
Advice doesn’t help lovers
They’re not the kind of mountain stream
You can build a dam across.
An intellectual doesn’t know
What the drunk is feeling!
Don’t try to figure
What those lost inside love
Will do next!…
The stars come up spinning
Every night, bewildered in love.
They’d grow tired
With that revolving, if they weren’t.
They’d say,
‘How long do we have to do this?’
G-d picks up the reed flute world and blows.
Each note is a need coming through one of us,
A passion, a longing-pain.
Remember the lips
Where the wind-breath originated,
And let your note be clear.
Don’t try to end it.
Be your note.
I’ll show you how it’s enough.
Go up on the roof at night
In this city of the soul
Let everyone climb on their roofs
And sing their notes!
Sing Loud!
-Rumi

What happens when you fall in love?
There is one particular moment when we yearn for nothing, when friends and systems of relationship are unnecessary, when parents are forgotten and the need for food, sleep and self-examination flies out of the window. This one moment of overarching certainty is when we fall in love. When we fall in love there are no questions…love is the answer.

The experience of falling in love shouts from the rooftops — “You are valuable! You are worthy of being loved! You are infinitely special – there is no one else like you!” We walk around with what we feel is absolute proof that “the world was created for me,” or at the very least with a crystal-clear understanding that our love would have been sufficient reason to create the world.

What is more, falling in love is the experience in life where we feel most personally addressed by the beyond. It is a cosmic embrace in which we feel infinitely cared for not only by our lover but by the universe itself. We glimpse for a short time what it might be like to be completely seen and completely loved. The world is made a home only by the opening of the heart. Common Latin etymology even teaches us that heart and hearth are rooted in the same soil of love.

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