“Reality placed sexuality at the center of your existence, not as a cosmic tease, but as a cosmic invitation to a users guide to the universe, that contains in it all of the wisdom, all of the power, all of the intelligence, all of the strategy, all of the capacity that you need to live a successful, meaningful, alive, gorgeous existence.” Marc Gafni in his keynote address at the Summer Festival of Love 2013.
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Eros is not just sexuality… it is the vast Creative Expression of the Universe. However, in its best expression, Sexuality models Eros as a microcosmic experience of the infinity of Eros.
We all know that underneath the success, the action, sometimes even the glamour and the excitement of our sexuality, there is this feeling that just kind of lives deep in our gut. And we ask ourselves: ‘Is this all there is?’
And sometimes the most sensitive among us, the people who really feel the emptiness and pain behind the question, and who aren’t willing to live in denial… they may actually become addicts of varying types.
Addiction! They are the people that somehow break down. And we all know them because it’s us… it’s our brother or sister, our friend, a beloved. Because the more you actually live fearlessly, the more you look at reality and you face everything and avoid nothing. The more that question comes up… and the question is…. ‘Is this all there is?’
Friends, what’s your worst nightmare? What’s your absolute worst nightmare, besides being tortured, because that is a really bad one? But within life as we are living it, what’s your worst nightmare? The most dreadful realization you can have?
You know what it is? We both know! It is the belief that your life does not matter. That you are insignificant. That you are irrelevant. That you are an extra on the set.
There are so many ways that people act out. There are so many ways to get into trouble. And the big one for most people is sexuality. And I am not talking about, rape, which is obviously tragic. I am not talking about sexual abuse, in all the forms that it comes, which is tragic. I am talking about the very ordinary ways that sex gets us into so much trouble. Everybody is looking for it. We all want to find an alive and loving sexuality, but so few actually open into this depth of human experience. Maybe there is a couple, living some place in Amsterdam or maybe it’s New Jersey and they got it going on. But for the rest of the world, it is a dream unfulfilled. It’s a yearning, we can imagine it, we can feel it, we can taste it, we just don’t know how to get there!
And the reason is: We are approaching through the wrong door! We are looking at sexuality as a fringe benefit, as an extra bonus that dulls some of the pain of a life filled with emptiness and quiet desperation. Sexuality is so much more than that.