Archive for 2009

Jealousy: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 20th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 1 Comment

Jealousy comes from not living in God. Jealousy is the profound dis-ease of sexual relationship. It is a reflection of our childish vulnerability to rejection or the withdrawal of love. It is for this reason that the response to jealousy can only be ...

Falling in Love: Part Twenty Three: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 19th, 2009 by Marc Gafni No Comments

This blog post and all the Torah that I am hugely privileged to share in these days, weeks and months, I offer for the full healing of my son Eytan who just been in a bad car accident in Israel. Thank God, though weak and bodily traumatized, he will ...

My Beautiful Son: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 18th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 4 Comments

As y’all know I rarely write blogs about my own life. Today is a rare exception. It has been a hard day. A very hard day. I just got off the phone with my son, Eytan. The one about whom I always tell the story about the Soul Print box. Both of ...

Intimacy

Posted on: February 17th, 2009 by Marc Gafni No Comments

In earlier blogs I have talked about intimacy as shared identity. It is precisely this expansion of self which is ecstatic. The move from I to We is the greatest joy of a human life. The circle expands however beyond the We of intimate relationship, ...

Falling in Love: Part Twenty Two: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 15th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 1 Comment

In Ecstasy The perceptions of falling in love is but one expression however of a broader kind of perception. This higher way of seeing is the path of Ecstasy. Ecstasy, from the Greek word ex-stasis, means “to move beyond stasis,” that is “beyon ...

Falling in Love: Part Twenty One: Marc Gafni[

Posted on: February 14th, 2009 by Marc Gafni No Comments

The Wisdom of the Womb Fifth century masters tell of an angel who comes and teaches all the wisdom of the world to us as we are growing in the womb. But upon our birth, that same angel puts its finger to our lips, and we forget all that we have learn ...

Falling in Love: Part Twenty: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 12th, 2009 by Marc Gafni No Comments

The Spiral of Shattering and Repair Redemption is greater than a simple return to our point of origin: it is a spiraling return which takes us higher. The Kabbalist captures this notion in the images of Tzimtzum, Shvirah and Tikkun – contractio ...

Falling in Love: Part Nineteen: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 11th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 1 Comment

Continued from yesterday. Good morning everyone. A gorgeous day to you all. This pattern of arousal from above, followed by a fall to which we need to respond with avodah — human work — is not only the pattern of love in relationship. It reveals ...

Falling in Love: Part Eighteen: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 10th, 2009 by Marc Gafni No Comments

“Joy whose hand is ever at his lips, Bidding adieu.” (Keats) Suddenly finding ourselves having to work for what was first experienced as a gift of magical purity can be infuriating, until we realize that losing paradise is not a cruel personal pu ...

Falling In Love: Part Seventeen: Remember The Night You Fell In Love: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 9th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 2 Comments

Vessels and Light Light is the symbol of love. When the vessels are repaired then they will once again be able to hold the light. So falling in love is somewhat like gazing directly into the midday sun: we cannot contain the light without first prepa ...

Falling in Love: Part Sixteen: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 7th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 2 Comments

So picking up from yesterday. There are three reasons for this essential pattern of the spirit rooted in the sexual and expressed so powerfully in love and Eros. One: Kabbalists begin from the clarity of personal experience. We do not work to fall in ...

Falling in Love: Part Fifteen: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 6th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 2 Comments

Hitting Ground The only problem with falling in love, or so it would seem, is that we are never able to keep falling: eventually we always hit the ground. Much like the initial core certainty of parental love, romantic love is often lost and needs to ...

Falling in Love: Part Fourteen: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 5th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 1 Comment

So the baby and the child and then the teenager get stuck behind these walls that we have come to call ego. In fact, as a society, we support and prop up these walls with phrases like “healthy ego,” “strength,” and the like, but, despite the ...

Falling in Love: Part Thirteen: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 4th, 2009 by Marc Gafni 2 Comments

We all know the throbbing raw pain which we call loneliness. We feel essentially disconnected — our very essence is misunderstood. Misunderstood We call this misunderstanding loneliness. Loneliness is, on one level, the inability to share my soul p ...

Falling in Love: Part Twelve: Marc Gafni

Posted on: February 3rd, 2009 by Marc Gafni 2 Comments

Before Boundaries Maternal love is the movement from onement to separation. Romantic love is the move from separation to onement. -Erich Fromm ‘The Sane Society’ What is the inside of the falling in love experience? In the first months of life, t ...